I didn’t hear from him the entire day. I then anxiously texted him that I had a great time with him. He replied that he did too and couldn’t wait to get to know me better.
We didn’t talk again until he texted me mid-week: “Hope your days going well”. I said “Thanks you too”.
The next day I tried to text figuring out our next plans. He said this weekend should work, and then I never heard from him over the weekend.
I didn’t hear today either, and I’m spiraling, thinking is it because we slept together?
If you want to build a lifetime relationship with a man that respects you and wants to grow with you together, then I would recommend not having sex until you run into a situation where you find the man’s edges and see how they do under pressure. You don’t really know a man until you find his edges and see if he has communication skills, conflict resolution, emotional availability, willingness to learn from mistakes and is focused on growing together in a committed relationship.
Having sex sooner than knowing who he is on a committed level is a gamble where the odds are against you if you are looking for is a lifetime committed partnership.
Dating for a lifetime committed partnership, you’re meant to hold out for the rarity. Men love women that are pure, and he likely isn’t going to wife a woman who doesn’t value herself. Psychologically speaking, when you give him access to your body so easily, he cannot help but to think of you as having low-value of yourself. I don’t write the rule book, this is just how most men operate, generally speaking.
Having sex with strangers, then, you invite the risk of being treated like you don’t value yourself. Since you are not valuing yourself, then why should he value you? This is an unconscious psychological tendency, so it happens energetically, and not likely purposefully.
If you’re looking for a serious committed lifelong intimate relationship, who will marry you, having sex before you deeply know a man is not a successful plan. Yes, some people get lucky, but the chances of you getting lucky without a plan is not very likely. If you want a husband who will commit for life, the odds are in your favor when you have a plan to not have sex until you know him through and though. Without that plan, it’s a losing gamble.